It’s NBA Playoff season, which means for us life is pure chaos. We are living by the Miami HEAT’s schedule (as we always do), but things tend to get just a bit more hectic and out of balance this time of year. There are more last minute promos to shoot, more practices between games to cover, and of course more white hot wardrobe to track down.
And in the midst of this blessing of extra freelance work, we still have our home lives. The beautiful kids that still need our time, love, and attention, and of course the never ending laundry and other household chores.
So how does one find balance?
It’s elusive isn’t it? Trying to find time for everything and everyone? The one thing I’m asked all the time is, “How do you do it all?” I’ve learned as a working mom that life is all about priorities, lists, and making sure we all find a little happiness each day. Between late nights at games, and early mornings for school, I’m proud we’ve been able to hold it together, partly because of this motto:
With 93 percent of families in this country requiring a dual income, finding balance between work and our children is becoming increasingly difficult. Here are a few things that seem to help us keep our lives running as smooth as possible.
5 ways to find balance as a working mom
1. Schedule Everything
Spontaneity is not my thing, I’m a natural planner. So we have a schedule for everyone in your house, in one place. For me it’s a planner in my bag that has each family member’s activities, appointments, nanny’s hours, meal plan and errands. (Yes I like paper planners!) We also keep a calendar in the kitchen that everyone can see so there are no surprises. This is my Saturday morning chore, along with meal planning. You can download my FREE PRINTABLE CALENDARS HERE!
2. Night Time Chores Make Mornings a Breeze
Plan ahead the night before so no one is stressed and frazzled on school and work days. Make lunches, coffee, plan snacks and activity bags, and take the pressure off the groggy morning minds! Also, don’t be afraid to give the little ones responsibilities too! Ours (at ages 7 &4) help make their lunches right after dinner, and pack their backpacks before bed. Teamwork!
3. Build a Stellar Support System
I can’t stress enough how vital it is to have a Plan A, B and C for when things go awry. We have a nanny, and a backup sitter, and friends we can call on if something happens. It’s so important to find dependent childcare that you can communicate with all day. And stay connected with your kids when you’re away! Nowadays with technology you can Facetime or Skype from your phones. Ditch the guilt and have fun showing your little ones what your work space looks like! It’s hard sometimes to be away from our kids, but they love knowing what we do when we’re away!
4. Happy Mom, Happy Life
Happy mom, happy life right? (I LOVE this from Peace, Love, World!) It’s so easy to lose ourselves once we become parents. But doing something you love every day or every week will keep you human. Reading, working out, writing, playing the piano, watching The Bachelor, getting a pedicure, whatever it is… just do it! And if you need help, here are some ways to make “me” time. I sometimes multi-task, workout at the Pilates place next to our girls dance class, or read or blog during their activities. Where there’s a will there’s a way, seriously!
5. Share Your Passions with Your Kids
Remember who you were before you were a parent, and share your passions and hobbies with your kids. You don’t always have to take them to parks, indoor play spaces, or plan play dates. Do the things you love too! We bake muffins together every week, and do cardio with the kiddos! And when I feel like reading my Nook, I grab our girls a few books for quiet time. Kids will be inspired if they see you doing what you love.
Remember if you are drowning… ask for help. And if you still can’t find balance, it may be time to re-evaluate what’s really important to your family. As Ferris Bueller so famously said, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”